The Lattest Ternd in Dating: Speed Dating!

Lets begin by clearing up what is it exactly Speed Dating. It’s a multi session of as much as 25 simultaneous mini dates of couple minutes eachand so forth It may be orgenized individually or by an organization as a Speed Dating Party with a lot of people. The principle is the same, You participate in a speedy round of limited time (few minutes per date) but with as many as 25 singles per session. This Fast Dating method is pretty effective and rewarding alike.

Normally in couple minutes, occasionally just three minutes you get to look at your possible date, get a short impression of his/her appearance, voice, accent, dress, self confidence and self esteem, couple background information, enough for you and for them to make a go, no go speedy decision which you may secretly mark on a compact piece of paper their tag identification Number.

Typically these speed dating sessions are arranged at a cool and special bars. Arranged with tables for two, to be used during these multi mini dates sessions. Each participant is seated in front of his date and when the host is blowing the whistle it is the sign it is time to move on to the next date. It continues until you finish all your mini dates.

Once you arrive home, you input the codes names of the partners you liked into the online dating system, you get another opportunity to see their pictures and refresh your recollection. When each participant entered his selections the system makes the final matching of the preferences of all participants. Hopefully, at the end of this process you get the names of potential dates you liked and like wise were interested in you.

Now, its up to you to send an email to a partner and arrange a real date. This time there exists no stress as you mutually acknowledged your fascinational attraction for each other.

It Is no wonder this system is a hit as it has numerous notable benefits comparing to many additional ways to get to know people, like blind dates, online dating services and pick-up bars. Just imagine, you arrive to a blind date with high expectations just to discover in as little as 15 seconds you are not fascinated at all to the date indevidual. Since you are such a good hearted boy and you dont want to disappoint your date, you go out together to the movies and spend some more time and money in a cafe When you understand it has no future at all. not only that, think of it, you would have spent that time and money 25 times!

The Man’s Way to Finding True Love

Every one of us is looking for an ideal partner, the person who fulfils our need to love and be loved. The problem is there are so many people who can pass the first-glance test that you can be looking your whole life and not know who to select. So how can you end up with an ideal partner wholl love you with all her heart? This article leads the way.

(In the Garden of Eden)
Eve: Adam, do you love me?
Adam: Who else?

Every day you go out, you see hundreds of attractive people. A hot-blooded male in his younger days may think, I can go with heror her or her. Arrgh! How do I decide? As a man grows older, if he is fortunate enough, he learns how to look beyond exterior beauty because all women are beautiful nowadays, arent they? So it can give a man one big headache to identify a woman who is truly compatible with him in mind, body, and soul. Women understand that men are born to think with their smaller heads. So being the intelligent creatures they are they use visual stimulus to appeal to the male instinct. Thus a man, who does not make fine distinctions into character and personality, may find that many women appeal to him. But if he learns to go a step further and say, Yes, shes attractive to me. But whats she all about? Then he goes beyond seeing women as visual objects, and more as people.

*Desire is bad for you?*
The attraction between men and women is biological, its inherited and its unstoppable. You dont need to make an excuse for your desire. One reason why we do not approach those who are attractive to us is because we are religiously and culturally programmed to believe desire is baaaad. A pious man who has the opportunity to meet an attractive woman may tell himself, No! I must not give in to temptation! The desire is too strong! But really, its just an excuse for himself because hes afraid of rejection. And unless he can come to terms with his desire see it as a guiding force, rather than an urge to be suppressed he may never end up with a woman he truly wants. Members of the opposite sex, who are more genetically compatible with you, will spur a greater sense of desire in you. Its natural. If you suppress the biological instinct when selecting a partner you probably wont have a happy sex life.

*Men and Women: Not So Different *
People like to believe that men and women are really different, but by nature they arent. We grow up imagining the opposite sex is some great mystery because everything about them seems different, and so we think its difficult to talk to the opposite sex. But really, men and women are very similar. They are anatomically different, but its not that big a difference. The human sexual organs are simply the inverse of each other. Penis and clitoris are made from the same embryological tissue. Male seeds hang outside (testicles), while female seeds are kept inside (ovaries). Its just one big reversal. What forces the difference is the action of testosterone.

Okay then, you say. What about the difference in the way men and women think? They dont like the same things; they dont talk the same, walk the same or wear the same clothes! (Well actually some do.)

Although men and women act differently, thats not so much a biological instinct as it is a cultural role they are taught to play. Men dont automatically love soccer, beer drinking, or going to the gym they are culturally programmed to adopt these behaviours because it brings them greater social approval.

A man who does not watch soccer is not one of the boys; a man who does not drink beer is not real man; a man whos muscular earns the respect of his peers and is more attractive to women.

These are beliefs so deeply ingrained into us that people might tell you its a fact, just like how women learn about the importance of being beautiful from magazines, television, and friends. What creates such a great difference in thinking and behaviour is not nature, but the enculturation of newborns into their gender roles. Blue for boys, pink for girls; toss the boys around, but be gentle with the girls. From young, everything about our culture teaches the sexes to differentiate themselves. From the clothes we wear to whether we can fart in public.

Being too focused on the exterior of a person, you only see the physical and cultural difference the accessories and behaviours created to differentiate the sexes. But look past the surface and youll see that each person, male or female, is subject to the same laws of emotion, logic, reason, and motivation. They have wants and desires, dislikes and hates; they communicate through language; they have two eyes, one nose, one mouth, two ears, ten fingers and ten toes. They have much more in common than they do in difference. So it is a folly to believe it is difficult to relate to the opposite sex. Just talk to them as you would any casual person, and youll see that even the most attractive person is easy to chat with.

*Being Worthy*
Women will choose the men they want to be with. And if a guy doesnt believe that, he might as well bury his head in the sand (hide from reality). A man should not worry about trying to get a woman she will choose the man she wants. What he should worry about, and it is his business to focus on this is becoming the best that he can be in mind, body, spirit; socially, financially, and emotionally. In raising his standard of himself, he will naturally attract the kind of woman hes been looking for. Understand that these women are also looking for him, but not that old sloppy version of him, they want the new well-groomed, emotionally and financially secure, entertaining and warm-hearted man, where they can lie safely in his arms, protected from a harsh and crazy world. This makes women seem superficial, but understand that their biological instinct is to select a male who can protect, nurture, and entertain at the same time.

*Love is a commitment*
To sustain love, two people have to choose each other. If either partner defaults or is unsure, the whole relationship falls apart. It doesnt matter how much you love the other person, if they do not return your love. This reminds me of those Chinese drama serials where they are so fond of saying, Ai Qing Shi Bu Neng Mian Qiang De translated it means you cant force love. And this will be the time when the male suitor will grip his head and cry, Why! Why?!! Then he has no alternative, but to drown his sorrows in drink, and maybe get knocked down by a truck. Then the girl will visit him in hospital, where with his dying breath he whispers his last words of undying love then he dies.

A great love relationship is not something you find, but something you build and commit yourself to. There are tons of beautiful people in the world and many who will seem more attractive to you than your partner. To some people, the grass is always greener on the other side. So what do they do? They hop over to the neighbours lawn! But then the lawn doesnt seem so green anymore but it looks like theres a greener one next door, so they hop again! They do their partner hopping, dating and exchanging, in search of the greenest lawn, but theyll never find it because a beautiful relationship, like a beautiful garden, must be tended to and cared for. You can have happily forever after with the girl you choose, but you must commit yourself to it. Without commitment, nothing lasts.

*An Uncommitted Partner*
Sometimes you might find that although you are ready to commit, your partner doesnt seem to want to settle. Women have commitment problems too, you know? She may be on the lookout for the ideal guy who can fulfil her whims and fantasies some idealistic vision of what a man should be. What you can do in this case, is not to give up hope yet, but put your full effort into convincing her youre the man of her dreams. Pull out your Ferrari, your 5Cs, your love potion everything and anything. If all else fails, then step back and realize that she has her own dreams and ideals. And as a man who still cares for her, the best you can do is allow her to follow her dreams. Gracefully step aside and wish her well. The right girl will come along for you one day.

If you want to find an ideal partner, you first have to be an ideal partner. A man does not have to worry about chasing women if hes focused on being the best he can be. By turning himself into an attractor rather than an attacker, he lifts himself above the neediness and hunger most men portray. Women are naturally attracted to him because he fulfils what they want in a man. Hes not afraid to talk to women because he sees them as people rather than sexual objects. When he feels a woman fits his ideal, he chases her with everything hes got. If she loves him and will commit to him, they stay together. If she wants someone else, he lets her go and carries on with his life knowing that hes doing whats best for both of them. The best partner is not one you win over, but one who chooses you and loves you with all her heart. Remember that.

The Most Intimate Feeling That Cause Love?

Jealousy is a fear of losing power. Actually all the people have always been striving for some power. However, finally you have to pay for everything you get in life. In the same fashion fear of losing power is the price you have to pay for your domination. This is why jealousy is familiar to most of the people who somehow or other are seeking domination over others.

Jealousy can be compared to cowardness: it is not an elevated feeling being a proof of love, but rather a permanent diffidence and fear of being unable to maintain domination over the object of love. Some people try to protect themselves from jealousy by choosing an originally intimidated, humble and useless person as a match. They prefer him or her to possess all of the above properties, only to be sure that it would prevent them from the fear of loss. Anyway, even this precaution doesnt prevent them from experiencing a feeling of jealousy, as this feeling is an unconscious reflection of their own weakness. The more the perception of his or her own inferiority, the stronger is the potential jealousy.

Psychologists have noted that very often men tormenting their wives with jealousy are not faithful themselves. However, their own unfaithfulness is of no importance to them, and they regard love affairs with other women as potential parallel relationships along with their marriage bonds.

A husband or a wife displaying jealousy often raises rows, trying to restrict all possible contacts of a spouse with other people. Such environment makes all family members suffer, therefore, it is in each others interests to help to create a climate of good will in the family and get rid of jealousy. Jealousy mostly prevails in those families where neither words nor matters are straightforward. Very often it is a result of such recommendations as Full openness does only harm to a family. Dont tell your husband.

Jealousy beyond measure is abnormal. For a person suffering of this disease any suspicious look would be enough to accuse the spouse of unfaithfulness. He (she) will be looking for any signs of unfaithfulness everywhere: in unwillingness for intimacy, in a gaze at an unknown man (woman), in a persistent wish for intimacy (to conceal unfaithfulness). Such jealousy may turn into madmans ravings based on no real ground. A jealous spouse makes up various situations, develops them and lives by them. In medical terms it is called a syndrome of a third person. Its useless to influence such a person by means of common sense. In such a case one should seek psychologists assistance.

On the other hand, a reasonable jealousy may add variety into the family life. However if it gets excessive, it becomes a sheer nightmare. Abnormal jealousy destroys heart bond between husband and wife and even affects work.

The origins of Valentines Day

Every year February 14th is celebrated as a day for love, exchange of gifts, promises of eternal passion, and more. The inspired pen poems inspired by their love and admiration for the women of their dreams while others just go to shops and buy commercially available verses.

Valentines means candy, chocolates, perfume, red hearts, balloons, and more. Have you ever wondered when the celebration first originated? Well in ancient Rome, February heralded the coming to spring a time for rejuvenation, fertility, and growth.

In ancient times, Romans celebrated in February a festival to honor the god of fertility who provided them with progeny and ensured a god crop. In Rome February 15th was celebrated as the feast of Lupercalla and Feb 14th as a holiday in honor of Juno the queen of Roman gods and goddesses. On the eve of Lupercalla a glass jar was filled to the brim with chits on which were penned the names of all eligible girls. Then young men would draw a chit each from the jar and the girl whose name was on the chit would be his partner for the celebration. This was a method by which ancient Romans introduced eligible boys and girls to one another.

Much later in the 3rd century BCE when Emperor Claudius II ruled Rome there lived a priest called Valentine. And when Claudius passed a decree that young men in his empire were not to marry, Valentine defied him and used to consecrate marriages secretly. He was sentenced to death and thrown into prison. While awaiting his execution Valentine penned a letter to his love and signed it from your Valentine. After his death Valentine became a martyr and saint and was popularly known as St Valentine.

Wonderful legends are woven around Valentines Day. In Wales young people exchanged as gifts wooden spoons which were hand carved with decorations of hearts and key holes. The decorations conveyed you hold the key to my heart or you unlock my heart. In other places women were given gifts of clothes and if they accepted the gift then it conveyed that they were wiling to marry the man who has sent the gift.

In 1415, Charles, the Duke of Orleans is known to have penned, from his prison in the tower of London , what were known as poetical amorous addresses to his wife in France, he is believed to be one of the earliest creators of valentines.

Just as companies like Hallmark sell cards for Valentines Day in the 15th century people bought little booklets with verse in them —they then made their own valentines using the verse to express their thoughts. For example a valentine could have the hand drawn illustration of a knight and his lady with Cupid the god of love shooting arrows into the knights heart.
In the US it was after 1723, that popularity of the celebration grew. People imported the booklets of verse all the way from England and copied the verses on to gilt edged papers. Then a Ms. Ester Howard in around 1830 decided to be original and create American Valentines that were marketed as Worcester Valentines.

Since then with changing centuries and tastes the celebration has taken on new hues with young men and women, children, as well as older couples creating newer ways to celebrate and declare their undying love.

The Perfect Date

Ask a woman what the perfect date is and the answer will probably run along the lines of a nice evening out with a leisurely dinner and good conversation. Maybe followed by a nice moonlit walk hand in hand with her handsome man. Stopping for a drink or desert and more conversation/flirting. In other words a slow romantic build up that may or may not lead to something more intimate.

Ask a guy that same question and the answer is pretty obvious, particularly when he’s talking to his friends. Did he get to do the horizontal tango.

Which just goes to show that a man and a woman at the same place and time sharing the same experience are thinking two different things.

So then the question becomes does the perfect date exist exist? Probably only in our minds as we map out how we would like it to go, but reality has a way of screwing with even the best laid plans.

But that doesn’t mean we can’t try to have the perfect date. And it doesn’t have to be a one time thing because lets face it, the whole purpose of a first date (unless things go horribly wrong) is to have a second date and many after that. And while not every date will be perfect or as good as the one before it, with a little planning and advice there’s no reason we can’t shoot for that high a standard every time.

There are a whole lot of guides to dating and dating ideas out there. And that’s a good thing, particularly for men. Because you men know how hard it is to come up with original ideas, and that in and of itself is what makes a perfect date. ORIGINAL IDEAS! You have to change it up, you can’t be doing the same thing, going to the same place every time. That’s not a date, that’s repetition. And nothing sets off the boring meter better than repetition.

One other thing to remember is you don’t have to use any dating ideas word for word. In other words, don’t try to copy exactly what the date guru has put forth. Take that idea and give it your own personal twist. What that is is up to you, but your date wants you to be you. So get your date ideas, even if they aren’t yours originally adding your own personality to the idea will make it yours and that makes it as close to perfect as you can get.

The Pick Up Artist and One Night Stands

Let’s talk about One Night Stands.

It wasn’t until I had a couple solid pickups that I started to really understand how easy all this really could be.

Looking back, I realize now that those initial successes were the start of a major “bad belief overhaul.”

I began to believe that women wanted me and wants to get in bed.

I also started to think of myself as an attractive, desirable guy (even though I’m far from what’s typically considered good-looking).

Now about 75% of my students come to me with one main goal – they want to sleep with more women.

The other half are looking for someone special. As I’ve said before, I don’t think these goals are mutually exclusive.

You see, if you’re looking for one special girl, you’re gonna have to meet a good amount of woman so you can make the best choice.

And if you don’t know how to meet women, this can be a daunting task.

There’s a very common phase that every good pickup artist goes through when he gets started.

He begins learning new ways of thinking and behaving, and lo and behold, he starts meeting and sleeping with a LOT OF WOMEN.

He’s like a kid in a candy store, taking full advantage of his new powers!

This period of learning is necessary, or at least it was for me in order to snap out of my old way of thinking, and internalize my new reality – that I am attractive and woman want to sleep with me.

So it’s important that you have a few really fast, casual sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on forming new beliefs.

I’m talking about one-night stands, same day lays, whatever you want to call it.

Now if you’ve never had a one night stand, or maybe got lucky a couple of times when you were drunk, having a one-night ‘stands at-will’ can seem just as out-of-reach as having a great girlfriend.

But it’s actually pretty easy, if you know what you are doing.

The crappy thing is, a lot of guys make it WAY too hard on themselves, and never get those initial sexual experiences that help them to really feel like a “natural.”

If you’re reading this, then you are interested in getting not only BETTER with woman, but you want to MASTER THE GAME.

Mastery comes from within – it starts with a mindset, and leads to external results, which then form NEW BELIEFS in your mind.

These new beliefs become the foundation for your new reality, where you naturally attract women without even thinking about it.

First of all, if you’re going for a one-night stand, there’s one thing you need to know — You won’t always be able to get the hottest girl in the venue to go home with you.

You can get a solid number from her, but whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy on a particular night varies widely.

However, in any bar, club, or even a day-time situation, there are LOTS of horny women who would be open to getting down with you that same day or night. You just have to know how to spot these women.

I look for a few things – first, I notice how they are dressed, how much makeup they have on, etc. If they look like they put a lot of work in to being pretty, it was for a reason.

They want to be approached. This of course, isn’t always true, but is generally the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They are subconsciously looking for attention
from men.

Lastly, I look for women who are looking around the room more than the other girls in their group. A lot of times, you’ll see groups of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room.

They are basically putting themselves out there, waiting for someone to approach them.

Now when you approach, take it easy – don’t go in full-steam running your clever routines and your cocky frame control stuff.

Just be light, social, and let them know you are interested in meeting them. A simple “hey, you guys look great tonight. Special occasion?” is enough.

The key here is not to openly discuss getting in sensual or that you are looking to take her home. You see, if you talk about that, you’ll put her on the spot and make her agree to bang with you, implicitly.

Instead you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This is against her “rules” and will force her to keep you at a distance. You’re also going to need logistical information, so that you can figure out how to get her back to your place when the time comes.

The real key to all this is subtracting any overt sensual intention, and not trying to pick her up.

You have to be willing to let go of controlling the situation, and just enjoy yourself, while escalating appropriately.

It may sound counter intuitive, but that’s how it works.

You have to trust that women wants to get in bed, and that a lot of the women in the venue wants to lay NOW.

Some won’t, but some will, and that’s why it’s key that you get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

You don’t want to invest a bunch of time with the wrong girl, or worse, to pick the RIGHT girl, and then mess it up after a lengthy interaction.

That’s a HUGE waste of time.