1st Time Meeting After Chatting Online

Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered. Dont try to think dirty here folks. What Im talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as ICQ, MSN or MIRC.

Thanks to these websites and chat software people have been given a better chance to find their partner. This is because people are given the chance to be connected wherever they might be. All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard. In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters. It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.

After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet. It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just chatting. Both persons may just be really looking for someone to talk to.

Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away. This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you wont see the other person thinking that its corny. Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).

Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard. This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you. Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.

Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person. Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is. The person instead is like living both worlds.

When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust. Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the persons mannerisms. This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome. Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.

It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.

Ukrainian marriage agency – Why are the Russian girls looking for a husband abroad?

A Yahoo search for a “Ukraine marriage agency” yields over 1,250,000 results. Let us be frank: these are the surprising results for an FSU country. Ukraine was locked away from the rest of the world for a long period of time and has finally gained its independence 16 years ago, opening great prospectives to cooperation with foreign counties. Ukraine is still a young country, so any way this effect is unexpected. What is the reason for this business to flourish in the FSU countries within the last few years? Are women of these countries hunting rich husbands? Are they raking around for an unforgettable short-term romance? Or do they just want something more profound like true love relationships and someone to make them happy?

Lucky for me, when these questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain to get the information so interesting for me, I contacted her and loaded her brain with all the questions.

Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every Ukrainian woman, who submits her profile to a marriage agency. Moreover I will be the one to inspire the foreigners: do exercise caution once you chose the path of a marriage agency search. In the past, some Russian ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity (read my article on scams in Lugansk city, Ukraine), but don’t let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceed

When I began questioning the motives of Russian women who take a chance on marriage agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the top reasons why the FSU women prefer foreigners is that the men at their home country aren’t good enough. There are a lot of bad stories about the life of Russian girls in foreign countries. Why not admit that the reason is in those men at home, who, in my opinion, don’t know what a family is?” – said Natasha commenting on the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which blamed marriages to the foreigners. “Unfortunately, the ‘Russian’ men have got a long way to go to keep up with the men from abroad.” Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a “Romance tour to find a Russian bride” trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men “drink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women.”

Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian brides/Ukrainian women share of the men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Throughout history Russian women have been famous for the way they treated their family. They are loving, devoted and caring, and, coming to a marriage agency they dream to find someone like themselves to create a strong happy family.

The other thing noticed by Natasha during her three-year-long marriage to a foreigner: To tell you the truth, marrying him I didn’t think about living in Italy… But for Italians the family is very-very important and they put a great emphasis on the family values. That meant a lot to me. Foreigners in general seem to be more serious about family and children, unlike the men at home.”

In line with a lack of quality of the FSU men, there is also a lack of quantity. Statistics show that during 2002 the ratio men-women was 46 , and hasn’t changed much since. Given that a large part of these 46% are people who can’t be counted on for love, care and support, it leaves the ladies of Russia and Ukraine very little to chose from. Of course the solution to the problem is broading your horizons.

“All the good ones have been snatched away long ago, your chances to find someone in this country after you turn 25 are next to nil,” Natasha mused over a cup of coffee (she married her Italian sweetheart at the age of 29). “It seems the guys (in Ukraine) disappear when they turn 30.”

On the top of all said, the appreciation of their own femininity sets the FSU women apart from American or European ladies. Most foreigners note that the FSU women look different from the latter two, and I don’t mean just their outward beauty, which has been mentioned and admired by many. These ladies like to look pretty, it is not unusual for them to wear a dress and pumps on a regular basis, they care about their body and like to be attractive. Bottom line, they want to be feminine, not feminist.

The FSU women cherish being a “weak gender”, which for them means taking care of their family in the first place, as well as being cared for and appreciated. Promises of that seem to be given in abundance by Americans and Europeans, many of whom share an opinion that it has been too long since Western women have shown any aspiration to cherish the softer side of the “weaker gender”. In comparison with a constant rush of the women at home to make careers and get equal with men, the feminine side of the FSU ladies is at definite advantage to the men from abroad. Even some FSU men will admit that “their” women are attractive to the foreigners exactly because they “remain women, not some emancipated feminists, like in the West”.

Natasha dreamily remembers her very first visitings Italy: “When I was in Italy I was treated like a princess surrounded with attention, that I missed so much from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments Italians value beauty.”

After all this, what can I say to the men in search of their destiny? It all comes down to what you are looking for. No doubt, there will be some money-hungry vamps, eager to trap you. If you want an exotic one night stand, you can find that in Ukraine, Russia or anywhere in the world for that matter. But there are no better places than Russia and Ukraine if you want to find a respectful, caring and loving woman who will cherish your family.

Understand All You Need To Know About Women Body Language

When you were a young child, have you ever tried to decode what your parents’ facial expressions mean when you ask them to buy you a new toy or to take you to Disneyland? A frown would likely be a “No!” But a nod would make you jump with joy. As you grow older, it has become a necessity to be able to detect if other people will agree with your decision or proposal. It’s especially important to for men to be able to asses a woman’s body language in dating situations. This is an ability that will truly help negotiators, employees, and even lovers to succeed in their ventures because they would be able to change their approach early enough to adjust to a specific situation.

When trying to attract women, you must be aware of different actions that indicate what she’s thinking about. A quick general look at what body language cues will help you understand her better. These are some indicators of thought:

Positive Body Language

She moves closer to you when you say something interesting
She locks eyes with you and ignores everyone around her
She looks for opportunities to touch you

Negative Body Language

She moves farther away from you during the course of the conversation
When you’re talking to her, she’s looking around the room
Her arms are folded and she has closed body language

Theres also a couple more signs:

They’re stroking their chin. This means they are assessing the advantages and disadvantages of the proposal/idea being presented.

• They take their glasses off, after which they may either (1) clean them, or (2) put the tip of the frame in their mouth. They are buying themselves some time to think things over. A frame in the mouth would also likely indicate that they need more details and they are willing to listen.

• They are pinching the bridge of the nose most likely with eyes closed. People doing this are engaged in very deep thought. They may be involved in a difficult situation, where they are aware of the consequences that may occur as a result of making crucial decisions.

• They put a palm below the chin, index finger pointed and extended along the cheek, while other fingers placed beneath the mouth. This gesture more likely indicates thoughts that are criticizing or antagonizing other people.

• They walk with the head down and hands behind the back. People who walk this way are probably worried about their problems, and they are thinking of ways to solve them.

Unique Valentine’s Day Gift: Top Five Valentine Gifts For Her

For Valentine’s Day this year, give that special someone the gift of a lifetime. Women love the concept of falling in love. Remember how Adam Sandler made Drew Barrymore fall in love with him everyday in the movie 50 First Dates. Adam Sandler has to come up with something new everyday, to make the same girl fall in love with him again. So, perhaps the traditional bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates are no longer enough to make the woman in your life fall in-love with you again. Well, you can try these top five unique gift ideas guaranteed to make her melt this valentine.

First Date Memorabilia

That first date will be the one they always remember. Even though you can not repeat the date, you can relive it. Framing the menu from the restaurant you first ate at together, is a brilliant way to show someone you care. To make the gift even more special, present it while eating dinner at the same place (even if it was fast food).

A slight variation of this is to have a favorite photo of the two of you framed in a nice decorative picture frame. For a more extravagant and sentimental Valentines Day gift, you can have your favorite photo converted into a CrystalScribe(TM), where you photo is engraved inside a crystal shape of your choice.

Star Light Star Bright

If you have ever taken a look at the sky and wondered how many stars there really are, rest assured, there are enough to name one for the person of your dreams. Through an online search, you will be able to find a great company that will sell you a star. You get to give it a name and forever change the sky. This gift will only be special if you name the star after the one you love. Please try and refrain from naming it after yourself, no matter how tempting.

Tell Them With Words

While the story of your romance may not be what you would call incredible, others may think differently. This Valentine’s Day, try writing a concise version of your courtship and publish the story. Give your loved one a copy of the published work and watch their face turn as red as that rose you left behind.

Give Back Adult Time

As time moves on in a relationship and courtship moves to marriage, it seems every waking moment is spent with the kids. Free time is given away, day after day. Homework, plays, soccer practice and dinner make breathing a cherished commodity. More than any monetary gift in the world, many would simply love the gift of time. Offering to watch the kids while your love spends a day, night or weekend away will not only present the perfect gift, but offer a refreshing change sure to last many moons.

Clean Things Up

Many hours, from Valentine’s Day to Valentine’s Day are spent in the midst of cleaning. This year, take that chore away. A maid service for a month, is a great gift for the entire family. Imagine all of the free time you will gain when someone else has to do all the cleaning.

Valentine’s Day gifts do not have to consist of roses, chocolates and expensive dinners. This year give a gift your loved one will be sure to love and a memory to last longer than any edible or perishable treat.

Unusual First Dates – Step Out of the Box

Okay, so youve been emailing each other for awhile, maybe youre text messaging and perhaps youve talked on the phone. You feel a certain chemistry and you want to move on to the next step, the FIRST DATE. You cant decide where to go or what to do. The possibilities for that first date are endless. Id like to make a suggestion; skip the whole dinner and a movie thing. Try something different. Step out of your comfort zone; out of the box. Remember when you were little and it was okay to color outside of the lines? Try it. It can open up a whole new world. Forget about the standard dinner and movie. Dinners nice, but why spend two hours in a theater watching someone else when you can be doing something fun that will help you get to know one another?

Put on your thinking cap and get creative. If youre not the creative type, ask for help from your family and friends. Not only will something different be fun, but youll stand out in the crowd. Your date will remember the fact that you gave some thought to where you were going and what you were going to do. Your first date can easily be a success. There will be plenty of time later on, if you continue to see each other, for dinner and a movie.

Personally, I like bowling. You might be laughing right now, or thinking “no way”, but I can tell you that it can be a lot of laughs. Bowling is a gas, and it’s a great idea for a first date! Its also nice that you are surrounded by other people, making your date feel safe. In addition, the fun and laughter around you can be contagious. If neither of you have ever bowled, it can be a learning experience for both of you, and no one will be at an unfair advantage. If one of you has bowled before, it can be an opportunity to be a teacher. On the other hand, if both of you have bowled, you can just relax and enjoy yourself. Throw a little alcohol into the mix (for it is one sport that actually invites you to imbibe) and just have fun. You might each bring a friend, which will also alleviate some of that “first date” stress.

If youre not into bowling, a picnic can be nice. Now, I understand that picnics usually have a romantic stigma attached to them, but you can change that. Rather than finding a nice little secluded spot in the middle of nowhere, plop yourself down in the middle of a populated park somewhere. Entertain yourselves by people watching. You can make an impression, if you put some thought into it. Think about the menu and the accoutrements. If youre not so swift in the kitchen, ask someone who is. Try a local deli or gourmet store. Many of them will be only too happy to put the whole thing together for you. Pick a menu and accessories that will make a statement. Forget the styrofoam cups and potato chips. Up the ante a little bit. A bottle of wine or champagne is a nice touch, but dont forget the corkscrew and the glasses. Theres nothing worse than finding yourself unprepared when youre trying to make a good first impression. Make a list and check it twice. Remember something to sit on, and make sure its nice, clean and without holes or stains. Remember napkins; cloth is nice. Be sure to bring such things as salt and pepper, and ice cold bottled water is always good. Run through your plans with a fine toothed comb and get rid of any snags.

Where you are and the time of year can help dictate where you go and what you do. If the weather is nice you could take a nice long walk or hike, and stop somewhere along the way for something cold to drink. You could go to the beach, walk along the boardwalk and stop for lunch overlooking the ocean. Roller blading or bicycling is always an option, as is a trip to a local winery or a farmers market. If it is winter or the weather is chilly, your options might be a bit different. Instead of roller blading, you could try ice skating. If youve never skated and you go to a public skating rink, you can find comfort in the fact that you wont be the only ones falling down. You will be surrounded by others doing the same. If theres snow around, you could go somewhere nice for lunch where there is a wonderful view. The possibilities, like I said, are endless.

If you plan ahead of time, you can ask others for dating ideas. Your Aunt Mary of Uncle Bob might know just the spot. You can go to your local Chamber of Commerce or Visitors Center for information. Sometimes we have events in our own town that we know nothing about. When the weather is warm, many towns and cities have outdoor concerts or festivals of some kind. There might be someplace historical youve never been. Museums and art galleries are good too.

So, if you want to have a successful first date, give it some thought. Dont be afraid of the unknown. Instead, embrace it. Enlist the help of family, friends and co-workers. Peruse your local Sunday paper or Weekly. Dare to be different. If the date ends up being a bust, at least youve tried something new or out of the ordinary. Good luck and happy dating!

Using an Online Dating Service

With research showing that around 30% of us are looking online for friendship and/or romance, then using an Online Dating Service no longer has the stigma attached to it that it used to have say six or seven years ago.

Using online dating and friendship sites are now an accepted way of meeting people, whether you are purely looking to increase your social circle and find people with similar tastes and interests to you or whether you are looking for romance or even more!

Meeting people online is a popular and safe way to meet like-minded people forget smoky nightclubs and the bubble bursting when the person who looks like the type you want to get to know better turns out to have completely different ideals and interests to you.

Once youve met a few people who sound nice, you are in control of how the situation goes, so you can go at your own pace, chatting online or sending an email until you decide it is time to speak on the phone or meet up if at all.

The beauty of making friends online is that you can do it any time of day or night. It is great if you are a single parent and unable to go out; if you work unsociable hours; or if the idea of going out to clubs and bars makes you think meat market.

Dating or meeting people on the Web means you can get to know someone really well before you meet up so that you can se that your tastes, intellect and ideals are the same.

So, how can you make the most out of using a online dating service (and remember, just because it has the word dating in it, doesnt mean that you cannot meet people for friendship on there)?

First of all, to find a site, do a search using a search engine and type in words and phrases such as online friendship, online dating, meet people online etc. You can then visit a few sites to see how they operate and to see which ones you feel comfortable with.

Once youve found one – or even two or three! websites you like the look of, you can register your details (most will allow you to register free) and then start meeting and chatting to people online.

Many also have offline activities, such as met ups in pubs, and organised events, which is a great way to go out without any pressure to meet anyone. It can also help you to put a face to a name if you have been chatting online for a while to someone!

If you do decide to meet someone on a one-to-one basis, then of course you should employ all the common sense safety precautions youd do normally such as meeting in a busy place and telling people where you are going etc. Sadly, meeting people online does not mean youll never meet an unscrupulous person again.

The positive new is that online dating and friendship sites have spawned a great many marriages, babies and strong friendships, so if there is a space in your life, going online could be the answer.