Writing An Online Dating Service Profile? 3 Mistakes You Must Avoid

Well, after 4 years of reading far in excess of 10,000 profiles of men and women searching for a partner through online dating services, Ive laughed at my fair share of poorly written introductions…

Of those 10,000 online dating service profiles, no more than a dozen captured our attention enough to make the first move. Im sure that you wish to get lots of reactions to your online dating service advertisement, otherwise why would you bother joining a site, and paying a fee to meet new people?

If that is the case, then make sure you avoid the following 3 mistakes at all costs:

1. “I May Be the one youre Seeking For”
This may be the case. However, by employing this combination of words anywhere for your online dating service profile, you arent telling me, or your potential suitor, anything new…

What this line does say to someone checking you out is that the online dating service profiler didnt do a lot of thinking about how they wanted to present themselves. Tell people what gets your eyes twinkling or even what REALLY gets you up in the morning – and dont say its your alarm clock, either. Now is the time to let your passions really shine through…

2. “Im the one Your Mother Warned You About”
This is, from my research in any case, virtually the most overused phrase in an opening line for online dating service profiles. True, its the generic option of some of the larger sites (such as Lavalife or even True) if your profile is awaiting approval, this tag line will show up while waiting for the a-okay…

To avoid this, come up with something a bit more unique and original. But what if you arent sure how to do this? Well, its not hard to take a look at your competition in the online dating service field, so why not do a quick search and see what everyone else is doing?

Reading other peoples description of themselves could just get your creative juices flowing. At the very least, itll explain what everyone else is saying about themselves and what key phrases and words you should avoid in turn…

3. Glaring Spelling or even Grammatical Mistakes
This tip might seem childish, or even trite but its critically important. While chatting with someone online, you may make a few spelling mistakes that a potential suitor will find annoying. However until you get to that stage with someone, noone should know that youve got dyslexia, or just cant spell worth beans…

It shows a lot to a potential suitor while they peruse the online dating services that someone has taken the time to spell check their document. Hell, get a friend to proof read it for you if want just in case youve missed something important…

However if you can’t take the time to write something legible, virtually all people perusing the online dating service websites will assume you wont have time to bother doing other, even more important tasks. And when you only have two or three of seconds to make that first impression before someone clicks on another person each and every detail counts…

Your Digital Spring Date

Spring could be your season to find true love online! Spring is a great time to start online dating because people are feeling energetic are looking for the chance to start a new, fresh relationship.

So, how can you find your digital date?

If youve never tried online dating before, you may be a bit nervous about trying it out but theres nothing to worry about. So many people are dating online that youre immediately part of a big community, and good dating websites have lots of advice on how to create a good profile and how to take the first step and contact someone youre interested in. If youre used to emailing your friends, you can date online.

Finding your date might be a little more complicated there are thousands of people on every dating site but paying attention to how you write your profile, and being specific about the sort of person youre looking for will help you to narrow down the field of possible dates. Take the time to write your profile carefully; you want to make yourself sound interesting and appealing, perhaps with a touch of humour and something that will attract the readers attention, like a catchy headline, or a question at the end that invites the reader to send you a contact message.

Its also a good idea to post a good photograph to accompany your profile. Whilst you should accept that some people will contact you based only on your photo and not on your profile, most people will take the two together and its always good to be able to put a face to a profile.

Once youre happy with what youve written and the photo youve chosen, post them on a dating site and wait to see what happens. In the meantime, browse through the other profiles on the site to see if theres anyone who meets your criteria. If so, send them a brief contact message to see if they want to get in touch.

It may be a different approach to finding a date, but its one thats worked for thousands of people give digital romance a try this spring!

Your Online Dating Profile: How to Present Yourself Online

For many people, the hardest part of starting to date online is figuring out what to put in their profile. All dating sites offer their members a profile page, where each member can write about his or herself, upload a photo (or several) etc. What you write about yourself in the profile is extremely important: second only to the picture in terms of making other members aware of who you are and making them want to contact you.

Many people are keen to start searching for and contacting people as soon as they join a site. As a result, they either leave their profile blank, or write something quickly before beginning their search. This is OK if youre just having a look around, but if you are serious about finding love online, you should take some time and make sure your profile is a good reflection of who you are. After all, its what makes you stand out from the rest of the people on the site.

Here are a few points to keep in mind:

Not too long, not too short

Try to write a profile that is detailed enough to tell people about you, but short enough to leave people wanting more. Writing a full length essay is a waste of time as most people wouldnt bother reading it all. If someone did read it through and contacted you, you probably wouldnt have anything left to talk about!

Be yourself

Its easy to lie when writing a profile, but more difficult to follow through once you meet someone. If your profile says youre 64 when youre really 511, your cover will be blown as soon as you turn up for your date. Also, starting a relationship with a lie is a sure way to get off to a bad start.

Unfortunately, even people who are honest and well-meaning sometimes lie unintentionally in their profile, by trying to write it in a way that they think would make them more attractive to other people. If you want to attract a likeminded person, you have to be honest about who you are, your hobbies and interests etc.

Dont be too demanding

Many people use their profiles to list the qualities they would like their ideal match to have. There is nothing wrong with that, but make sure you balance this with information about yourself. You dont want to come across as writing a ransom note.

Too much information

Avoid mentioning past disappointments and bad break-ups in your profile; this is not what the space is for. Think: do you really want this to be the first thing people see when they look you up? Dont let yourself be defined by negative aspects of your personality and bad experiences of the past.

Make it funny

Using humour is a good way to liven up a profile and give people a glimpse into your personality. Some of the most successful profiles are the ones that simply make people laugh. Including a joke you find funny is good, as long as you make sure you write something about yourself in the profile as well.

Be original

Anyone can write I have a good sense of humour, but not anyone could make you laugh. When writing about yourself, dont just use a list of adjectives. Try to go deeper and give people examples of what you actually mean. A good way of doing this is starting off with a list of adjectives and then using each one as a starting point for a few lines of text.

Upload a picture

Even the least shallow people want to know who theyre talking to. Not having a photo on your profile will make many people ignore you completely. Some people even specify in their search that they only want to speak to people whose picture appears on the site. Dont worry about your looks. Different people have different tastes and not everyone expects to meet a movie star or a supermodel online. A clear headshot of you smiling is all it takes to seriously increase the amount of responses you get.

Be consistent

Make sure your profile, your screen name and your picture all match the impression you want to give. If you are a woman looking for a serious relationship, calling yourself SexKitten and uploading a semi-nude picture of yourself, is not likely to attract the kind of man youre looking for. A man looking for a wife, should probably not use a username that hints about how good he is in bed.

Remember: your profile is the first (and often last) impression you will make to potential online matches. Make it count.

Your Sexual Past – Does it Bother your Boyfriend?

The last thing your boyfriend wants to think about is another guy having been with you (whether we’re talking about sex or just hooking up). Envisioning some other guy getting down with you can literally drive him crazy.

Have you had a checkered sexual history that’s filled with lots of experience? If so, your boyfriend might have trouble dealing with this. But this is something that he must accept.

Don’t you dare let someone else throw your past in your face or hold it against you. If it’s ancient history (or only a few months ago), let it stay there, and move on.

He must accept you for all that you areIf he’s chosen to be with you…he needs to accept you for all that you are. And that means everything. It doesn’t mean he has to like your sexual history, of course, but it means he can’t hold it against you. It’s completely unfair for him to want to date you and then start knit-picking about details from your past.

If he’s constantly bringing up your pastTell him flat out that he’s going to have to accept everything about you if he wants to date you. Let him know he has two choices:

a) You two break up

b) You two stay together…but he can never mention your sexual past ever again. Never. Not even when you two are fighting.

Learn from your mistakes and move onThe few moments of pleasure that come from sex and hooking up can have a permanent effect on you reputation and self-esteem. If you’ve chosen to change your “free loving” ways, you’re doing the right thing and that’s what matters most. On the other hand, if youve only had a few hookup and your man is making a major issue about it, you might want to rethink whether you really need to date such a puritanical person.

3 Categories Women Put You In Before You Meet

When approaching women, even before you have said a word or done anything she has already unconsciously put you into one of three categories:

I Like Him

I Don’t Like Him

Undecided

Now that you are aware of the three different categories lets go over each ones strengths and weaknesses for you.

Category #1: I like Him: If you happen to look or remind her of someone that she liked, dress in a certain type of way that she finds attractive or anything else that she happens to connect with. Congrats you have a heads up on everyone and when it comes to taking it to the next level its all On You. This is a great thing and if you fall in the Average Guy category expect this to happen with around 10 percent of the women that you meet who are available.

Category #2: I Don’t Like Him: You ever meet someone and for no apparent or real good reason you don’t like them?

Guess what women are the same way and for good measure most women throw unconfident men and a whole slew of petty reasons in there as well. If you fall in this category and at least 10 percent of the time you will if your just an average guy, unless you have some unknown outside factor to enhance you (hot ex still after you, famous, rich, etc.); there is nothing you can say or do that is going to get this woman to change her mind and be attracted to you.

Category #3: Undecided: The majority of the times about 80 percent is you are an average guy you are going to fall in this Category which if you have done your studying and reading on seduction and how to attract women is a perfect place to be. Because as long as you are in the Undecided category you can work on creating the desire and attraction in a woman that you want. This is very good news for you my friend.

Of course the time is now for you to get your life in order so that when you walk up to a woman that you find to be a potential partner and she is thinking to herself maybe or maybe not over the course of a cup of coffee or tea you can turn that maybe into a yeas and increase your success with women tremendously.

3 Reasons Why Inner Game Will Help Your Love Life

Have you ever had great success in one venue, maybe house parties, but were unable to succeed with women you met other places, like perhaps Clubs?

Often it is easier for you to be cool and social in one venue than another. This is your `comfort zone`. You know what to say, how to say it, and who to say it too. But outside of that zone, you are toast! This is because we often use certain external techniques and social skills that do not really apply to every venue we might find ourselves in. When you have deep set beliefs that you are a high status male, and that no matter where you are, that you are among the elite males, then all these anxieties and problems fall away.

How? Because your strength and resolves makes other people change THEIR mode of behavior to suit yours. If Bill Clinton walked into a raging rock concert or hip hop concert, this one man, would have everyone in a completely different frame of mind, all begging to appease HIS way of interaction. The people bend to YOU.

Inner Game Positively Influences Your Body Language

* Fifty-five percent of the communications signals we send results from how others see us

* Thirty-eight percent flows from the way they hear us

* Seven percent comes from our words

Having solid Inner Game allows your body language to accurately communicate. This is called `congruence`, when your words are matched by your attitude and body language. If you say Super Man things to a woman, but feel like Clark Kent inside, she WILL know, and you will get nowhere with her.

Inner Game Improves Every Aspect Of Your Life, Making You More Attractive

I saved the best for last. Inner Game development need not be limited to confidence and belief setting with women. It can apply to everyone, and life in general. You can rethink previous ideas, like you’ll never be able to get into a good college, or you’ll never make a good XYZ and then your subconscious will begin helping you to change so that these things can happen. What is best is that being successful in life ( and I don’t mean being rich ) will make you doubly attractive to women, and that will raise your confidence even more. It is cyclical.

Conclusion

Not learning proper Inner Game techniques can lead to ALOT of frustration AND embarrassment too using seduction tactics that seem incongruent. Without Inner Game, no amount of “negging”, or “cocky funny” will allow you to have lasting success with women.