Reality. You say one lie (that you are bold-faced aware you are saying), and you have just changed the game. You now have to keep track of the lie, never forget it, and know that that lie is what part of your potential relationship is now based on. For she will believe you. And one day, if you are both lucky enough to get involved, she will find out. And she will dump your ass. Or do a LOT of haranguing and how-could-yous.
In the same respect as you will be yourselfnervous if you are nervous (some girls find that adorable); clumsy if you are clumsy (some girls find this endearing)you will also remember that the girl you seek to impress might not be the one for youno matter how close a next-door neighbor she is or how many years you all went to the same football games and movies. Do not bother bartering above your station if she is not the type to date your type.
Confidence. Dont think yourself unworthy of every woman who walks into study hall, either. Try, please, TRY to strike a healthy balance between Ah, me, (ala Eyore) and the cock of the walk. We do not know how to handle either of you. WE dont know what to do with a whimpering oneother than play armchair psychologistand we dont know how to act around an egotistother than to giggle NERVOUSLY, as in DANGER to our self-preservation instincts, which are telling us to run.
Interests. Have interests other than guns. Talk about something besides your Nazi swastika collection. In fact, if you are a skinhead or neo-Nazi, you may have other things on your mind besides how to seduce women. So ignore this article, wont you? When you ask her questions, for Gods sakeor yoursLISTEN to the answer. Dont look at her boobs. Dont keep saying uh-huh. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. Interact.
Health. The studies show that we are attracted to the body and face that represents the optimum reproductive abilities and features. That is, white teeth, symmetrical shapes, etc., are not consciously sought after but certainly part of the search. Brush, bathe, shave, etc.. And smell good. Whatever that means.
Fairness. Do not put her on some Madonna (or Madonna/whore combo) pedestal. She is not Angelina Jolie. She is not your mother. She wont make love to you forty times a week. She wont cook for you or jump up from her studies to do the dishes if you demand it, expect it, or insist that Mommy always did it for you. If you are just meeting her, dont tell her how much you adore your mother or how many nights a week Mom comes along on dates with you. In fact, if youre an actual Mommys Boy, dont even bother reading this.
Positivity. Whatever You do, do not fake joy and sunshine and lollipops if your favorite pet just died, but try to see something good in every person you meet, not just the one that your biology cannot ignore. Try to see, especially, some good in yourself. Smiling and jokes are often great bonding mechanisms. So is Hello.